Dear Nigeria, Our Girls Are Dying in Silence?

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Dear Nigeria,

Our girls are not okay.

Behind the neat school uniforms, the Sunday smiles, and the “yes ma” obedience, they are breaking.

Every week, I meet them and every week, I hear their stories.

During our Girl Child Confidence Seminars, I’ve encountered so many girls who have whispered

 secrets that should never belong to a child:

  • “My uncle touches me.”

  • “My stepfather won’t let me sleep in peace.”

  • “My mother tells me to keep quiet so we don’t shame the family.”

They carry abuse like a second skin. Neglect like a backpack, and trauma like a birth right.

Some of these girls are still being abused right now as you scroll through this post.

1. In homes where no  one dares speak.

2.In schools where the teacher is the predator.( I have had several girls confide in me about this)

3.In churches where fear is holiness. In a nation that teaches silence.

Your silence is louder than their screams!!

Nigeria, our culture tells them:

  • “Don’t speak up — it will disgrace the family.”

  • “Cover your body — it’s your fault anyway.”

  • “You’re too young to know pain.”

  • “You must respect your elders — even if they break you.”

But let me tell you something hard:

Silence is killing our daughters!!!

Not just physically but emotionally, mentally, spiritually.

I know. Because I was one of them. I was abused as a child. I grew up in Nigeria with no mentor, no safe space, no language for my pain. But I made a vow:

If I ever found my voice, I would use it for every girl who couldn’t. And that’s exactly what I’m doing.

The fire is rising.

In Akwa Ibom, in Calabar, in Abuja, in of Port Harcourt, and the streets of Lagos —I see bold girls

 waking up. I see them writing poems, sharing their truths, refusing shame asking questions.

 Demanding safety. But they need more than hope. They need you — the teacher, the pastor, the parent,

 the policymaker — to wake up too.

What can you do?

  • Believe the girls. (EXTREMELY IMPORTANT)

  • Create safe spaces in your school or church.

  • Don’t protect predators.

  • Stop silencing pain.

  • Support programs that train and empower girls.

We are not broken girls waiting for rescue, we are bold girls waiting to be heard, seen, protected, and free!

And QueenShero Africa will not stop until that is a reality. I write this not just as an advocate — but

 as a SURVIVOR!! For every girl still crying in silence tonight, we see you and we are coming for you

 — with love, fire, and truth.

– QueenMother😘🤗



 Girl Child Advocate | Literacy Expert | Founder, QueenSheroSpeaks
Queensheroafrica@gmail.com
Uyo, Nigeria


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